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Seems like people here are not actually giving any real advice, but since nobody will ever hear about it again:
Ich have a problem with two girls, let's just say A and B. A is really silent and I do not know much about her. I like her, but as I said, there are not much things that I can like about her since I just do not know anything. She is in my class and I will most likely meet her again at June 11th. I met the other girl at a Comic convention and we almost never really meet, but we had lots of conversations via mail. She is interested in manga and also draws really good and I think that she is the one I really like. Until now there does not seem to be any kind of problem, but now let's get to the real thing: A confessed her love to me about a week ago. I said that I did not want to talk about it on the internet and asked her to wait until school starts again. This is where the trouble starts. I am really bad at being a jerk and to solve this it seems like I have to be a jerk. Also, I haven't been feeling very well lately and when I had problems with my last relationship, I also had massive problems with my stomach and headaches. As I said, the one girl is really silent and shy. I've been like that, too until some years ago, so I know how hard this must have been for her and how it might drag her down if I refuse.
So is there any way of solving this wthout being mean or destroying her self esteem?
Well. heres the question Where did B go? you've only talked about A i cant really give you an advice if there's only one girl being talked about but you adressed that theres two. and at the begining. you did say you you like A so i dont see whats the problem.. if you dont know her just be like. honestly A idk how id be able to Like you if i dont know much about you... or something like that or like somehow get her to just kidna open to you? or ask her whyy does she like you. things that kind of get a girl to open up to you is like just awkward alone time together or when she does things she likes. and by solving.. like rejecting her in a way where your not being mean and still let her have her self esteem.. then you can say something im sorry A i dont know much about you. although i do like you i just dont know much about you. maybe once i get to know you better. <-thats the like maybe sometimes in the future rejection
now if you dont want to give her help. just saying. something like honestly. i cant return the feelings because i dont know you that well and i want someone whose able to just open up to me and be someone who can be comfortable around me and let me be comfortable around. i just honestly dont think id be able to fart around you and not feel embarassed about it x(
but if your solving the problem of like "not knowing who she is" but want to get with her
you can well suggest that you guys should go into the talking stage. that although you arent officially together. but you guys are just in a status of. oh yeah im interested in her and shes interested in me but we dont quite know each other yet. so were going to get to know each other lol
But if you dont like the talking stage but still want to get to know her you can get with her as official bf and Gf and see how things work. usually the kissing and the holding of hands bring out how someone is. lol. idk or like just get to know her as the relationnship of bf and gf progresses.
Usually.. when a guy says they dont want to talk about it. its usually a sign of rejection already.
QUESTIONS FOR YOU: what happend to B?
how do you like a girl you barely know?
since you two have the same interest how is it that you barely know who she is?
dont you guys text, then how come you dont know her that well?
do you and your A girl still send mails to each other?
PS. I HOPE THIS HELPS !  im sorry if any of my suggest does not make sense if you want more information dont be afraid to quote it pm me or just add me as a buddy to talk about it. but honestly. i likee these kinda talks Oh and. some people do give advices on here that arent halfed ass. im one of them. well sometimes -.-
Seems like I messed everything up a bit. So I knew B for about a year. We were the ones sending the mails and we are still doing it. She si one and a half years younger than me and it seems like I really like her. I never had any contact with a except at school and since she doesn't talk much, we have talked maybe 30 words until now. And I got to know her in 5th grade which means I know her for 7 years. It's not like I dislike her. Some friends of mine called her ugly and psycho because she doesn't talk and I got really angry about that, but whatever it is, I am fairly certain that there is no love. I also have watched her for some time and I am pretty sure that she actually likes one more popular guy and only chose me because asking the other one out would have been even harder for her.
The other problem is that I think that I wouldn't be able to keep up a friendship with B if A was my gf and on the other hand that I have to go to school together with A and thus wouldn't ever be able to avoid meeting her again or talking to her again.
so. you dont like her (A). your just not sure how to reject her, and still be friends so that when you see her at school it wont be weird? so you just want to have B and A as your friends still w.e having to give up one?, i feel like you LIk B for some reason! well if you still want to be friends with A even after rejecting her just honestly tell her how you actually feel. because im sure she would understand. because you have always backed her up when your friends call her ugly and such. and.. i dont think she likes a more popular guy.. because the thing about girls no matter how shy they are and such well the thing about me (a girl) im very straightforward once you get to know me. and at first if i like you. id probably be shy AF =.=.(end of me) i think she does like you because i dont think she would ask a girl she didnt like. even if she did like another who is more popular than you. i just feel like maybe because you were so kind to her she liked you.
and i dont think if you did get with A you'd drift away from B because like if you really wanted B to still be your friend then like. you'd be able to juggle those two.. like its not liek your always going to be with A. and its not like A is the jealous type who thinks every girl out there is going to try to get at you. Ipersonally am like that sadly ;/ but my bf lieks it so w.e lol(end of me) im not sure what your problem is but if you stil lwant to be B's friend and A's friend you can either
tell A how you really feel about her. which is your form of rejection or acceptance lets just say in this case its rejections. that you'd still want to be friends but if it was acceptance then you'd can ask her if shes the jealous type and if its okay for you to be able to hang out with B.
honestly situations of wanting to keep both girls is complicating because you have to satisfy both party =.=
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Dabrush wrote:
Seems like people here are not actually giving any real advice, but since nobody will ever hear about it again:
Ich have a problem with two girls, let's just say A and B. A is really silent and I do not know much about her. I like her, but as I said, there are not much things that I can like about her since I just do not know anything. She is in my class and I will most likely meet her again at June 11th. I met the other girl at a Comic convention and we almost never really meet, but we had lots of conversations via mail. She is interested in manga and also draws really good and I think that she is the one I really like. Until now there does not seem to be any kind of problem, but now let's get to the real thing: A confessed her love to me about a week ago. I said that I did not want to talk about it on the internet and asked her to wait until school starts again. This is where the trouble starts. I am really bad at being a jerk and to solve this it seems like I have to be a jerk. Also, I haven't been feeling very well lately and when I had problems with my last relationship, I also had massive problems with my stomach and headaches. As I said, the one girl is really silent and shy. I've been like that, too until some years ago, so I know how hard this must have been for her and how it might drag her down if I refuse.
So is there any way of solving this wthout being mean or destroying her self esteem?
Well. heres the question Where did B go? you've only talked about A i cant really give you an advice if there's only one girl being talked about but you adressed that theres two. and at the begining. you did say you you like A so i dont see whats the problem.. if you dont know her just be like. honestly A idk how id be able to Like you if i dont know much about you... or something like that or like somehow get her to just kidna open to you? or ask her whyy does she like you. things that kind of get a girl to open up to you is like just awkward alone time together or when she does things she likes. and by solving.. like rejecting her in a way where your not being mean and still let her have her self esteem.. then you can say something im sorry A i dont know much about you. although i do like you i just dont know much about you. maybe once i get to know you better. <-thats the like maybe sometimes in the future rejection
now if you dont want to give her help. just saying. something like honestly. i cant return the feelings because i dont know you that well and i want someone whose able to just open up to me and be someone who can be comfortable around me and let me be comfortable around. i just honestly dont think id be able to fart around you and not feel embarassed about it x(
but if your solving the problem of like "not knowing who she is" but want to get with her
you can well suggest that you guys should go into the talking stage. that although you arent officially together. but you guys are just in a status of. oh yeah im interested in her and shes interested in me but we dont quite know each other yet. so were going to get to know each other lol
But if you dont like the talking stage but still want to get to know her you can get with her as official bf and Gf and see how things work. usually the kissing and the holding of hands bring out how someone is. lol. idk or like just get to know her as the relationnship of bf and gf progresses.
Usually.. when a guy says they dont want to talk about it. its usually a sign of rejection already.
QUESTIONS FOR YOU: what happend to B?
how do you like a girl you barely know?
since you two have the same interest how is it that you barely know who she is?
dont you guys text, then how come you dont know her that well?
do you and your A girl still send mails to each other?
PS. I HOPE THIS HELPS ! im sorry if any of my suggest does not make sense if you want more information dont be afraid to quote it pm me or just add me as a buddy to talk about it. but honestly. i likee these kinda talks Oh and. some people do give advices on here that arent halfed ass. im one of them. well sometimes -.-
Seems like I messed everything up a bit. So I knew B for about a year. We were the ones sending the mails and we are still doing it. She si one and a half years younger than me and it seems like I really like her. I never had any contact with a except at school and since she doesn't talk much, we have talked maybe 30 words until now. And I got to know her in 5th grade which means I know her for 7 years. It's not like I dislike her. Some friends of mine called her ugly and psycho because she doesn't talk and I got really angry about that, but whatever it is, I am fairly certain that there is no love. I also have watched her for some time and I am pretty sure that she actually likes one more popular guy and only chose me because asking the other one out would have been even harder for her.
The other problem is that I think that I wouldn't be able to keep up a friendship with B if A was my gf and on the other hand that I have to go to school together with A and thus wouldn't ever be able to avoid meeting her again or talking to her again.
so. you dont like her (A). your just not sure how to reject her, and still be friends so that when you see her at school it wont be weird? so you just want to have B and A as your friends still w.e having to give up one?, i feel like you LIk B for some reason! well if you still want to be friends with A even after rejecting her just honestly tell her how you actually feel. because im sure she would understand. because you have always backed her up when your friends call her ugly and such. and.. i dont think she likes a more popular guy.. because the thing about girls no matter how shy they are and such well the thing about me (a girl) im very straightforward once you get to know me. and at first if i like you. id probably be shy AF =.=.(end of me) i think she does like you because i dont think she would ask a girl she didnt like. even if she did like another who is more popular than you. i just feel like maybe because you were so kind to her she liked you.
and i dont think if you did get with A you'd drift away from B because like if you really wanted B to still be your friend then like. you'd be able to juggle those two.. like its not liek your always going to be with A. and its not like A is the jealous type who thinks every girl out there is going to try to get at you. Ipersonally am like that sadly ;/ but my bf lieks it so w.e lol(end of me) im not sure what your problem is but if you stil lwant to be B's friend and A's friend you can either
tell A how you really feel about her. which is your form of rejection or acceptance lets just say in this case its rejections. that you'd still want to be friends but if it was acceptance then you'd can ask her if shes the jealous type and if its okay for you to be able to hang out with B.
honestly situations of wanting to keep both girls is complicating because you have to satisfy both party =.=
You know, you can't be nice to somebody that you have no contact with. I would be nice to her but ther has never been an opportunity to do so. Also this thing with calling her ugly all happened behind her back. (Which made me even more angry. People being all nice and friendly to her and as soon as she leaves the room talking about her as if she was that girl from "The Ring"). I've also got the feeling thhe doesn't see me as the person I really am. Most of the time at school I act like an clown or a happy person but all my friends and my family know me as somebody who doesn't talk more than necessary and who keeps just sitting and thinking for hours. I don't even know how a date would work: Two people sitting next to each other for hours and saying nothing. In case you misunderstood me: She is not only shy, even when she is with her friends, she says maybe 5 sentences a day. (I know this might e an overreaction since every relationship I had until now was killed by my "she doesn't really know me" attitude)
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Kay, I saw a few threads on teenage drama, I luled, I was also annoyed about all the little girls whining. So instead of banning them I decided to make a thread where YOU can ask for advice, or give it to people that ask.
So, whine away. I'll be else where, or "helping."
THIS IS FOR GENERAL HELP, RELATIONSHIP ADVICE, EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS, ETC.
wow rude much. it's not like those type of threads are any different then treads about the dude in Florida who ate a guys face I've seen a few of those. Was it really necessary to call them whinny girls too? You could have made this without insulting people. Very unprofessional.
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Feels like watching pre-school kids counselling.
This will end up not going anywhere, and he'll end up doing what he said in the first post, take B and be a coward to A.
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Dabrush wrote:
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Naruuki wrote:
Dabrush wrote:
Seems like people here are not actually giving any real advice, but since nobody will ever hear about it again:
Ich have a problem with two girls, let's just say A and B. A is really silent and I do not know much about her. I like her, but as I said, there are not much things that I can like about her since I just do not know anything. She is in my class and I will most likely meet her again at June 11th. I met the other girl at a Comic convention and we almost never really meet, but we had lots of conversations via mail. She is interested in manga and also draws really good and I think that she is the one I really like. Until now there does not seem to be any kind of problem, but now let's get to the real thing: A confessed her love to me about a week ago. I said that I did not want to talk about it on the internet and asked her to wait until school starts again. This is where the trouble starts. I am really bad at being a jerk and to solve this it seems like I have to be a jerk. Also, I haven't been feeling very well lately and when I had problems with my last relationship, I also had massive problems with my stomach and headaches. As I said, the one girl is really silent and shy. I've been like that, too until some years ago, so I know how hard this must have been for her and how it might drag her down if I refuse.
So is there any way of solving this wthout being mean or destroying her self esteem?
Well. heres the question Where did B go? you've only talked about A i cant really give you an advice if there's only one girl being talked about but you adressed that theres two. and at the begining. you did say you you like A so i dont see whats the problem.. if you dont know her just be like. honestly A idk how id be able to Like you if i dont know much about you... or something like that or like somehow get her to just kidna open to you? or ask her whyy does she like you. things that kind of get a girl to open up to you is like just awkward alone time together or when she does things she likes. and by solving.. like rejecting her in a way where your not being mean and still let her have her self esteem.. then you can say something im sorry A i dont know much about you. although i do like you i just dont know much about you. maybe once i get to know you better. <-thats the like maybe sometimes in the future rejection
now if you dont want to give her help. just saying. something like honestly. i cant return the feelings because i dont know you that well and i want someone whose able to just open up to me and be someone who can be comfortable around me and let me be comfortable around. i just honestly dont think id be able to fart around you and not feel embarassed about it x(
but if your solving the problem of like "not knowing who she is" but want to get with her
you can well suggest that you guys should go into the talking stage. that although you arent officially together. but you guys are just in a status of. oh yeah im interested in her and shes interested in me but we dont quite know each other yet. so were going to get to know each other lol
But if you dont like the talking stage but still want to get to know her you can get with her as official bf and Gf and see how things work. usually the kissing and the holding of hands bring out how someone is. lol. idk or like just get to know her as the relationnship of bf and gf progresses.
Usually.. when a guy says they dont want to talk about it. its usually a sign of rejection already.
QUESTIONS FOR YOU: what happend to B?
how do you like a girl you barely know?
since you two have the same interest how is it that you barely know who she is?
dont you guys text, then how come you dont know her that well?
do you and your A girl still send mails to each other?
PS. I HOPE THIS HELPS ! im sorry if any of my suggest does not make sense if you want more information dont be afraid to quote it pm me or just add me as a buddy to talk about it. but honestly. i likee these kinda talks Oh and. some people do give advices on here that arent halfed ass. im one of them. well sometimes -.-
Seems like I messed everything up a bit. So I knew B for about a year. We were the ones sending the mails and we are still doing it. She si one and a half years younger than me and it seems like I really like her. I never had any contact with a except at school and since she doesn't talk much, we have talked maybe 30 words until now. And I got to know her in 5th grade which means I know her for 7 years. It's not like I dislike her. Some friends of mine called her ugly and psycho because she doesn't talk and I got really angry about that, but whatever it is, I am fairly certain that there is no love. I also have watched her for some time and I am pretty sure that she actually likes one more popular guy and only chose me because asking the other one out would have been even harder for her.
The other problem is that I think that I wouldn't be able to keep up a friendship with B if A was my gf and on the other hand that I have to go to school together with A and thus wouldn't ever be able to avoid meeting her again or talking to her again.
so. you dont like her (A). your just not sure how to reject her, and still be friends so that when you see her at school it wont be weird? so you just want to have B and A as your friends still w.e having to give up one?, i feel like you LIk B for some reason! well if you still want to be friends with A even after rejecting her just honestly tell her how you actually feel. because im sure she would understand. because you have always backed her up when your friends call her ugly and such. and.. i dont think she likes a more popular guy.. because the thing about girls no matter how shy they are and such well the thing about me (a girl) im very straightforward once you get to know me. and at first if i like you. id probably be shy AF =.=.(end of me) i think she does like you because i dont think she would ask a girl she didnt like. even if she did like another who is more popular than you. i just feel like maybe because you were so kind to her she liked you.
and i dont think if you did get with A you'd drift away from B because like if you really wanted B to still be your friend then like. you'd be able to juggle those two.. like its not liek your always going to be with A. and its not like A is the jealous type who thinks every girl out there is going to try to get at you. Ipersonally am like that sadly ;/ but my bf lieks it so w.e lol(end of me) im not sure what your problem is but if you stil lwant to be B's friend and A's friend you can either
tell A how you really feel about her. which is your form of rejection or acceptance lets just say in this case its rejections. that you'd still want to be friends but if it was acceptance then you'd can ask her if shes the jealous type and if its okay for you to be able to hang out with B.
honestly situations of wanting to keep both girls is complicating because you have to satisfy both party =.=
You know, you can't be nice to somebody that you have no contact with. I would be nice to her but ther has never been an opportunity to do so. Also this thing with calling her ugly all happened behind her back. (Which made me even more angry. People being all nice and friendly to her and as soon as she leaves the room talking about her as if she was that girl from "The Ring"). I've also got the feeling thhe doesn't see me as the person I really am. Most of the time at school I act like an clown or a happy person but all my friends and my family know me as somebody who doesn't talk more than necessary and who keeps just sitting and thinking for hours. I don't even know how a date would work: Two people sitting next to each other for hours and saying nothing. In case you misunderstood me: She is not only shy, even when she is with her friends, she says maybe 5 sentences a day. (I know this might e an overreaction since every relationship I had until now was killed by my "she doesn't really know me" attitude)
Then how is it your able to like her? Im seriously confused. are you just unsure of wanting to get with her? because she asked you? are you mad because of how "friends" think of other people besides themselves? and going on date does not exactly mean you sit and talk for hours. its just like bonding time. like how you would if you hang out with yourfriends. Look . just follow your gut feeling. if you feel like you dont want it to ruin something then do something about it. if you feel like nothing will change out of the things you do. then just go with that feeling... things like this is not about getting advices. and like. you shouldnt be afraid to go into a relationship not knowing someone because as a relationship grows you get to know them. and if you dont like how they are just break up if you like how they are then stay with them... are you telling me you have no contact with Ms.A and doesnt she go to school with you? idk im getting veryy confused at what your trying to say to me ;/ you can eaither try to help me understand or. just idk o-o because im willing to talk to you and such. but. im just really confused ._.
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Tons of torment few have ever bothered to help me with.
I am very angry, in fact, I was angry until I did something... unexpected a few months ago that was potentially life-saving and inspiring (afraid to reveal it as it may sound arrogant), but now am ready to POUND something internally speaking due to a kaleidoscope of bad memories that ruined my adolescence returning to me at a lower level than before yet still infuriating.
First off, my older brother read me the Biblical Flood at the age of 8 and thus I get very annoyed and aggressive with any talk of Ragnarok, the Apocalypse, glorifying Evangelion as the best , and much more.
I did not know downloading ROMs of video games was illegal in 2003, when I was 12, I tried, but was redirected to an 18+ site thus I am a human MALE with porno-phobia, imagine the suffering I felt, thinking people who so much as mentioned Family Guy gags were trying to hunt me like a rabbit chased by a wolf... (Don't mention ecchi anime that are nothing but sex jokes, I will take it personally...)
My own mother emotionally abused me and kept me away from my own friends for much of my school life and made me sacrifice most of my adolescence for her survival in a cigarette smoke infested house or suffer the words, "how could you? how could you be so mean?", I have/had asthma thus athletics were impossible. I was so trapped, I had to Platonically fall in love with a fictional being just to keep my mind alive. Yes, I could not see my friends on weekends as often as most were privileged to have happen, thus an anime character was literally my mind's life-support and now my subconscious is mistaking anime characters and people in real life for "ma...ma..." which never existed, I have no real mother! DAMN MY CHILDHOOD!!!!
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How do you stop the urge of wasting money on pointless things.
For example I think I waste too much money on food.
I could just try and be happy with this can of soup.
but I always wanna eat out and eat nice food at nice places.
sigh* I want to save my money but eat good food.
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Learn to cook.
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Imitate those cheifs on the cooking shows or go find recipes and read the directions.
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i have this teacher that i'm pretty close with. we get on great and we're both passionate about the same things. he's younger (like '30s maybe) and i can talk to him really easily. i like him a lot, i think he's great to be with and just a big sweetheart. but sometimes i'm told that he might like me more than that maybe
it's little things. the other day i was wearing this dress and it was sleeveless, so my upper back and shoulders were exposed. he put his hand on my shoulder and kind of kept it there for a while while he was talking to me and then told me i looked cute. he always ruffles my hair and punches me teasingly, he touches me a lot but not in a bad way. the worst he's done is put both his hands on my shoulders and rub a little. he teases me in class and writes little comments on my papers. when i walk by his room he tells me to come in and talk to him sometimes and stuff like that
i don't feel threatened, most of it seems innocent and like i said, i like him. but my friends say he's flirting. he's married with kids and stuff so i don't get why he would prowl after me anyway, but people say it's obvious. is he just being friendly or am i being oblivious? i think he's just affectionate
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Most men flirt when they're bored and there's likeable women nearby. But it rarely involves touching unless they want sex.
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