Personally, I like a woman that makes the first move. It says she knows what she wants and goes to the necessary lengths to get it. I think it's admirable rather than following the dominant hegemony and simply playing the waiting game which absolutely sucks and is annoying. However, at least out here where I live; that's not the social expectation. Women want to feel chased. So the games ensue, some men are crushed under the weight of disapproval while others revel in the awesome that is acceptance and other... things.

I'm too shy :<

If more girls took the initiative it would make things easier on the guys.

I'd dig it.

My pride keeps me from doing that. For 3 freaking years I've been contemplating whether I should tell him or not since the guy I like is excessively shy when it comes to this stuff, but in the end, I've decided to keep on waiting.

Plus I'm scared he'll reject me. I've invited him to events with friends a few times in the past but he's always said he's busy... so I'm pretty sure that's a sign that he's not interested, but then again his friends and mine are not the same so he might feel uncomfortable (yes, I'm making an excuse for myself) <=== so shouldn't that indicate that I'm "going up" to him?


BUT....
I've always wanted a romantic "will you be my girlfriend" proposal... but I think that'll never happen :(

I think that girls won't ask the guy out 1) because of their fantasies and 2) because we're a lot more cautious... we think more... so there's always the possibility of him rejecting you and the world finds out, everyone laughing at you... etc...

A missed chance is a missed chance, that is FATE. But a ruined reputation is your near future. You can't mess up that.

Would help me a lot. I can tell when a girl is flirting with some guy, but there have been many instances where someone was flirting with me but I was totally not getting the clue. There was this one time however where the girl made it very obvious but I was in a position where it was VERY inappropriate for me to proceed.

Ya I just did that. Ya.... that didn't turn out so great. He wasn't looking for a relationship. Oh well. At least we're still friends.

Men are like that totally have a self gratifying ego when you asked them they seems to view you as nah your so easy and if you do not mind them if they hit on you or court you they will most probably said your playing hard to get. geee well findings suggest that men only like it when you approached them if they like have a feeling for you also or they think you look hot and pretty besides that the hell with them hey they are men, things that will not kill them will only make them MORE MEN so let them try or die hard approaching us girls. Us female will just play it cool and believe me it feels good when a man ask you out and court you specially if he is sincere and not some one hit wonder boom i out here after like i got what i want player type

Amen brother...I am also soo much more attracted to women who knows what she want..it takes her attractiveness up 20% for me.

aww soo cute....for you a guy better ask you first I insist he does. thanks for being honest.

I agree...maybe not all the time, but just a little more would help alot.

Help you get laid?

wow three years...you are very patient . I hope when you actually ask him that it works out for you.

Well duh

LoL no...wow you really got me really laughing out loud .....well it might end up being part of it. Ya know when things work out well...it happens, but it isn't the only thing...plus i'm the relationship and progressing to marriage type.